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Friday, August 17, 2012

Talk Among Friends

One thing about my mother, she has friends. And, they are all coming out to pay her back for all the thoughtful things she has done over the years. She is truly a kind and generous person - to a fault at times. 

Yesterday afternoon, the physical therapist had her sitting in a chair to gain strength. I know it was painful but she was making progress. After an hour, her attitude went sour. Then she started, "This is what they do. They just abandon you. Leave you for hours - helpless. I know, I've been here." I assured her that they would be back. She continued about her pain and her thoughts of giving up. I didn't know whether it was time to walk out of the room to find a nurse or have a Come-to-Jesus meeting right then and there.

As if my prayers were answered the door opened and three of her neighbors walked in. Within a matter of minutes the pain had passed and thoughts of being abandoned by the therapist were gone with the wind. The four of them chatted away. First, they inquired about her progress. She went into lengthy detail about her determination to get into rehab early. Then they started catching her up on the news she had missed.

"Well, you know Julian is going to have the meeting tomorrow night." "Well who is going to go? You're not thinking about going Sue, are you?" "Heavens no. I wouldn't walk through that gate at his house if you paid me." "Oh, the gate. Isn't that tackiest thing you've ever see. I swannee he comes up with more things for that yard.. Next thing you  know he'll have a fountain out front." "He can't do that." Then my mother added, "He wasn't even supposed to put up the gate according to the bylaws."

Mama's nurse came in to check on her and take her vital signs. Mama just held out her arm and kept on talking. "I wish someone would give him a copy of the by-laws." "I wish someone would throw a copy of the bylaws at him and knock him in the head. Maybe that would knock some sense in him." They all giggled.

The nurse just worked quietly, obviously taking all this in. Sue, then asked, "Have you had any more visitors?" "Oh, I have. You would not believe who was the first person to come see me?" "Who?" "Erlene." "Erlene?" "She was up here with David. You know David what's his name. She is going with him now." "How does she always manage to get these men.? And, she's how old?" "88, she told me yesterday." "And, it was Buddy before David. And, John lived with her for the longest time."

With that exchange the nurse couldn't help but start laughing. Mama and her friends laughed at themselves. Dottie looked at the nurse. "We all live on the same street. You've heard of 'Desperate Housewives'? Well, we are the 'Desperate Widows.'"

3 comments:

Lynnfralick said...

This is great!  Is this the same Dottie I met years ago?!

Linda Medrano said...

I know after my mom had a stroke (following treatment for Ovarian Cancer), she was very down. Her friends helped her keep her spirits up tremendously.  Unfortunately, her kids were not as helpful to her.  Bless their hearts!

Linda Medrano said...

I know after my mom had a stroke (following treatment for Ovarian Cancer), she was very down. Her friends helped her keep her spirits up tremendously.  Unfortunately, her kids were not as helpful to her.  Bless their hearts!