As for the substantial food, in case our guests need to eat between the different festivities, I could always just send Steve to Costco. God only knows what we would end up with. Last time I did that, he came home with 4 boxes of scallops wrapped in bacon, 44 miniature cheese cakes, and 2 trays of baby quiches. Of course, along with that was a new wire rack for the garage, ten pounds of carrots (for his tortoises), three gallons of Dawn (because it was a deal), and a new surround system (because ours was old). The meats and cheeses I had requested for a quasi antipasto salad never made it into the cart.
Who needs antipasto when you can have cheese cake? Fine food is so over rated.